Friendships make the best relationships

I have met some good men in my past that had great qualities but the connection just wasn't there. For so long I have been waiting patiently to find that special person that I can share a bond and a strong friendship with. Someone who understands me even when I'm not saying anything at all. Someone who challenges me, someone that makes me laugh until I have tears in my eyes. I don't want someone that's just like me or that will agree to everything I say or do. I need someone who isn't afraid to speak up or to voice their opinion. Someone that understands that it's okay to agree to disagree and our conversation won't turn into an argument every time we disagree. Someone that can understand and appreciate my role and my back ground. Someone that can stand tall whenever I fall weak. Someone that's open-minded. Someone to grow old with, so we can experience and enjoy all that life has to offer. Someone with a mutual sense of values and we share a common objective. Someone that can forgive and move forward. Someone who knows that the past is the past, and its no reason to keep bringing up the past when you're trying to move forward. Someone that allows me to grow and doesn't hold me back, we help each other grow. I need a fighter, because no relationship is perfect. The sun is not going to always shine so I need someone that's willing to fight through the storm and don't quit when things get rough. I want someone that's spontaneous and not afraid to walk on the wild side, not too conservative. Someone that's willing to create our own family traditions. Most importantly, I want someone that loves me without conditions. I want to fall in love with my best friend!

Fight For Love

“ Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created.
In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.” By Paul Newman

I ran across this letter from Paul Newman to his wife on their wedding night, and I said to myself these are exactly the kind of fundamentals to consider when trying to obtain a marriage that's forever.

So many times people are so quick to give up on their relationship, no one wants to fight but no one wants to be the first to say good-bye either. When your relationship is in a rocky patch, you must try everything, and I mean everything to get things back the way they used to be. Sometimes after a while together, you have to just hit the refresher button on your relationship.

From a female perspective I can tell you what works for me. Try date nights, writing love letters and/or sweet emails expressing your love and appreciation for that person. Take classes or start a new hobby together. Although you may not be the best cook, try to prepare her a surprise meal. Either breakfast in bed or dinner followed by a nice hot bubble bath. The fact that cooking dinner is something you rarely do, she will be so surprised and thankful that you stepped out of your comfort zone to do something special for her. Try doing things you did when you first started dating, rather it was going to the gym together, watching sports, going to see plays, movie dates, car shows, or traveling. The key is start doing things together as a unit or as a team, instead of doing things separately creating separate journeys and memories. If money is low, just create a day or night at home just the two of you. Let the kids stay the night over friends or relatives house and plan something simple yet romantic or wild and crazy for the evening. When all else falls, go to counseling.

Whatever you and your significant other are into, do it and enjoy it. Don't hold back, use this night to create memories. Always remember, surprises are much more appreciated and sincere when the reason behind it is simply "just because."

No matter what you choose to do, don't put too much thought into it because you will end up overthinking. It's not about planning the perfect night and buying the most expensive gift; it's about having fun, enjoying life together, and creating those happy memories that will last a lifetime.

Ways to spice up your sex life

As we all know, long term relationships can get dull and everything can become a routine even the sex. Life itself can become a routine if you let it. Sometimes it's because of your work schedules or just finding time in between raising the kids. I would like to offer a few tips that you can try to keep things interesting and to spice up your love life. I wouldn't suggest trying these things on someone you just met 2 weeks ago.....NOOOOOO! The first thing I would recommend is try having sex anywhere else other than the bedroom. Try having sex in the kitchen, the tub/shower, in the car on date night at the drive-in. Sometimes a change is scenery is all you need to get the fire going again. #2 Take a trip to your local sex store together, explore all of the wonderful gidgets and gadgets they have from sex games, vibrators, cock rings, lubs&oils, sex swings, movies, whips and chains. You are bound to find something you both can enjoy. Toys are always fun. Now this is something I can't wait to try.....#3 take a few pole dancing classes. Invest in a portable pole to put up in your bedroom and give your man his own private show. #4 Wear some lingerie especially if you wear the same old pajamas every night or even if you sleep nude every night. Just doing something out of the ordinary will add excitement. #5 Watch a porno together or better yet create your own. (Recorded or not) Becoming the porn star gives you the opportunity to become the slut or freak you always wanted to be. It's your chance to let your inner freak out. #6 If you have a man that travels or if he works a lot, randomly sending him nude pics is a way to keep him sexually turned on. #7 Another way to get his dick hard is to one day while you are at dinner or lunch excuse yourself from the table to go to the restroom. While your in there, remove your panties and place them balled up in your hand. Once you return to the table, whisper in his ear "I don't have on any panties". At the same time place the panties in his hand. I guarantee he will be ready to eat you right then & there lol. I'm a big fan of wake up sex. It's the best way to start your day, it's better than coffee. #8 When you wake up in the morning or while you're getting ready for work, just start giving him some head. Let him know that's all you want to do is to give him head and that's it. He will be at work thinking about you all day. #9 Hot body sundae. Bring food into the bedroom or rent a hotel room. Whip cream, chocolate whipped cream, strawberries, fudge syrup, pineapples, and cherries. Licking, eating, and sucking these delicious toppings off of your significant others body will not only taste good but feel amazing. #10 Romantic Sex. Light some scented candles in the room and turn on some soft slow music. This will set the mood and might cause you to make a baby on this night. Last for now but not least. #11 Go to a swinger's club together. Not necessary to have sex with other people, unless that's what you are into, but to watch other people have sex. It's like watching a 3D flick up close and personel. They have private rooms just incase you are uncomfortable with having sex in front of others. 

There are so many things a person or couple could do to bring that fire back. It's all about your limits, what you are willing to try or do. Sometimes you have to let your hair down or loosen your collar. Sex is a beautiful thing, it's an art. You can create it however you choose. The trick is to always have an open mind. 

Good luck! 

Sexual Aids

Hello everyone!

This is my 1st blog so lets see how it goes.....

Today I wanted to give a review on "ON", which is a Sexual Aid product that helps women that have problems being stimulated or with staying WET. "ON" is 100% all natural and is derived from essential botanical oils. “ON” does not contain any menthol, mints, or L-arginine of any kind. This product produces a warming sensation unlike other products on the market which create an uncomfortable burning effect. In addition to the warming, “ON” produces a buzzing sensation similar to a mini-vibrator which is achieved through an all-natural and organic fashion. “ON” must be in direct contact with a mucosa membrane in order for the sensation to be experienced. This is the reason why the sensation can be achieved in one’s mouth. When tested in the mouth the feeling will last only a few minutes because your saliva washes the product away. When applied to the clitoris, however, it can last up to 45 minutes. "ON" can be purchased in 3 different types. You can get the balm, which comes in a like lip gloss or lipstick tube and you just rub it on your clitoris like you would apply lip balm on your lips. It's also available as a liquid which can be applied on by squeezing a few drops. Also, you can buy them in single use packs.

Okay now this product really do what it says it does! It feel like a 9-volt battery it on your clit. It will have you very easily stimulated. If someone blow on your p@ssy you will feel like you are about to cum. I remember when I used this product one time, I had my fan on in my room, and a course I didn't have on any panties. That cool air from that fan brushed across my p@ssy and boy I almost bust one! It had me sooooo wet I had to go wipe off before he got in the bed so he wouldn't think I had already started without him. So i totally recommend this product and well worth the money which is $20. Once applied it only takes about 1-2 minutes before you can start to feel it working. Also, its tasteless so he wont taste a thing just in case he decides to give you a little face/head during or before penetration.

 Even if you don't have any problems with staying moist or being stimulated, it will only add to whatever sexual drive you have and double your organisms.